Nonviolence: A Way of Life
Monday, January 19th, 2009
Marcel M. Baumann writes: Dr. Martin Luther King taught us that nonviolence first transforms the person who
embraces it. Nonviolence is radical in the deepest sense of the word
because it changes the spirit behind attitudes. Once the spirit of
nonviolence is internalized, goals like domination, conquest or
retaliation no longer drive behavior. When this happens the stage is
set for a dramatic transformation of the relationship.
We are challenged to experiment with applying his principles in our
daily lives, especially in resolving the conflicts that we encounter.
Dr. King taught that nonviolence is a powerful tool for revolutionary
personal transformation. As we begin to internalize these teachings, we
develop a greater sense of wholeness and meaning in our lives. We
cultivate virtues like love, truth, commitment, respect and courtesy,
courage, self-discipline, hard work, honesty and social responsibility.
These are the some of the core values involved in making nonviolence a
way of life.
Nonviolence as a way of life challenges us to rise above the
debilitating emotions of hatred and to purge our contempt and animosity
toward adversaries. Instead of returning anger with anger, we set an
example of emotional maturity. We educate the public and we win the
respect and support of the community. We acquire a moral and spiritual
power that can not be denied. To internalize the spirit of nonviolence,
we refuse to be bated into petty arguments. We challenge negative
energy and violence with a loving, positive attitude. This is how
nonviolence disarms adversaries. As Dr. King said, “Along the way of
life, someone must have enough sense and morality to cut off the chain
of hate by projecting the ethics of love into the center of our lives.”
A commitment to study and practice nonviolence in our personal lives
gives us an edge in resolving conflicts and in achieving your goals
without making enemies. These teachings can help improve our family
relationships and our dealings with friends and our peers. Nonviolence
can help us more effectively communicate with our adversaries and
resolve disputes in a way that benefits everyone.
The way most people deal with a conflict is by first asking
themselves the question, “How can I get my way?” This is the normal way
of dealing with a problem. When we think this way, as we all do so
often, we let our egos manage the conflict.
But there is a better way. When we make nonviolence a way of life,
the first question we ask at a time of conflict is, “What is the most
loving thing to do?” When we think this way, we tap the power of the
soul. We overcome the narrow, selfish concerns of the ego.
We don’t want to destroy our opponent. We want to win their
friendship and understanding. We try to find a “win-win” solution,
which benefits everyone. This is how we create lasting peace. We
resolve the conflict, not with the attitude of a conqueror, but with
the motivation of a peace-maker. (01/19/09)
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